sometimes love is just doing things without having to be asked, making a cup of tea for someone as they’re working, packing an extra lunch because you know they’re rushed for time. Love doesn’t have to be expressed in grand gestures, to me, the little gestures of love matter more.
the key to confidence is knowing yourself and what you want. so here are some tips for you to start embracing and knowing yourself ♡
find your “aesthetics” or start presenting yourself the way you would like to.
there are a lot of styles you could get inspo from, and feel the best in. I want you to not put yourself in one box of an aesthetic like “I like coquette, so I will forever wear things like it”. sure! you can do it if you feel like this is the style that suits you most, but if you feel like expressing yourself more than in one go for it! there is no way you have to pressure yourself to fit in one category just because people or you won’t be “confused”. you are you by wearing pink dolly dresses with grey hoodies and cargo pants.
find hobbies and stand strong by them
try many different things which you will enjoy. books, movies, knitting, writing, journaling, self care and the list goes on. do not listen to anyone saying that it’s “weird” or “doesn’t suit you”. this is what will make you , you! never let go of beautiful things that make you happy. even if you like collecting dolls at the age of 16 (like me) and society tells you it’s child’s hobby, so be it. hobbies do not have an age range bc with the same logic they could say “knitting if for grandmas”.
journal
find some promts on pinterest and write , write , write
start being comfortable with yourself or when you’re alone
realize that you are that person who’s funny , charming, smart, INTERESTING. a lot of us are uncomfortable with being alone and have the need to always meet someone. now don’t get me wrong, you have to meet people! do not by any means isolate yourself but forcing yourself to meet just because you don’t like being all alone is wrong. Imagine going on dates where you go to YOUR favorite restaurant, order YOUR favorite food, buy YOURSELF the prettiest flowers. why don’t you like being with yourself if you and your body knows all your favorite things , and offer a lot than anybody could ? my advice for you to is go out on single dates , sit in your home and read a book, or even in silence just with yourself. and you will realize a lot more about yourself. trust me you’re going to love it <3
set goals and make promises to yourself , work on them
these are essential things that will help you trust yourself more. I want you to remember that everything in your life is success. even if it’s not “perfect” it’s yours! and that’s what should matter the most. keep growing and teaching yourself.
I cannot emphasize this enough as a practical life skill: learn how to say no to authority figures. Learn how to tell them that nothing they can do to you will change your mind. Disappoint your parents. You have to live your own life.
